Having Fun Series - 1 of 4 Editions
Somewhere along the way, fun stopped feeling natural.
Not because it disappeared, but because it became conditional. After responsibilities. After productivity. After everything else was done.
The true meaning of fun goes far beyond frivolous pleasure. Fun, at its simplest, is not an activity. It is a felt response.
At its core, fun is a state of playfulness, connection, and flow, a way of being that pulls us into the present moment and gently disconnects us from worry. It is not loud, dramatic, or always social. Often, it is subtle.
It shows up in small moments: noticing the warmth of the sun, enjoying a quiet walk, smiling without explaining why. These moments often pass unnoticed because they do not look impressive. But the body notices them.
Many people confuse leisure with fun. Scrolling, zoning out, filling time, these can look like rest, but they do not always leave us feeling more alive. True fun has a different quality. It engages us. We feel absorbed, present, and lightly connected, to ourselves, to the moment, or to someone else.
This is the difference between distraction and enjoyment. One numbs. The other nourishes.
When the body is engaged rather than distracted, something softens. Time feels different. The nervous system eases. Enjoyment does not need to be earned or justified; it simply arises. When the sacral is supported, fun does not need to be chased. It is remembered.
If fun feels distant, there is nothing wrong. It is simply an invitation to notice where enjoyment already exists, quietly, gently, without effort. When the body feels engaged rather than distracted, that is fun being remembered.
At Shantiii x3, this is something that comes up often in sessions. Not as a problem to solve, but as a quiet pattern people begin to notice, that enjoyment feels slightly out of reach. When we work with the body and energy together, fun is not something we try to generate. It naturally reappears as the system softens and reconnects with itself.
Fun is one of the clearest signals of balance. When it is present, the body is responding, not bracing.
In the next edition, we will explore hat happens when fun is tangled with guilt, when enjoyment feels undeserved, irresponsible or hard to relax into. Not to fix it, but to understand why fun so often disappears just when we need it most.